Honour and the Individual
- July 1st, 2009
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At the end of my last article I talked about how the actions of others could be seen as dishonourable, and someone asked what I meant by honour. Honour is a difficult concept to pin down. It is used so frequently within Druidry that the word itself passes with an assumption of mutual understanding; yet perhaps the understanding of the word needs further exploration.
In her critically acclaimed book ‘Living With Honour’ (O Books 2007) Emma Restall Orr expands themes she touches on in an earlier article published in ‘Pagan Visions for a Sustainable Future’ (Llewellyn 2005). In both she begins by exploring the definition of Pagan/pagan and Paganism before moving on to exploring Choice; choice in the context of what is and what is not morally and ethically acceptable. And it is those explorations of the understandings of ethics that leads us through the maze of human relationship, the web of connections that weave between us and all of nature – the human animal, non-human animals, the environment and the web beyond – exploring concepts of sanctity, power, wealth and ownership. Only then does she move on to offer words that pull the threads together; integrity and integration. Explored briefly in the earlier work, in Living With Honour all these thoughts, ideas, understandings and concepts are explored deeply and thoroughly. It certainly isn’t an easy or comfortable read, making the thoughtful reader turn inwards to explore their own understanding of self and of relationship, questioning their own attitudes, assumptions and beliefs.
But what exactly is honour. To quote Emma Restall Orr from an article published on The Druid Network website:
“As a starting point, honour is about honesty and respect. As we live, increasingly wakeful within our spiritual practice, our ability to live honestly grows broader and deeper. We are increasingly willing to sacrifice that most poignant of qualities, ignorance, both about ourselves and about the world around us. So it is that, with greater awareness, our ability to forge truthful, open and respectful relationships also grows. We begin to acknowledge, to perceive and engage with the spirit of all around us: we sense the essence of life. With this vision of life, in all the exquisite beauty of the patterns of nature, it is hard to be thoughtless, selfish and destructive.”
http://druidnetwork.org/ethical/articles/druidry-choice.html
So if honour can be seen to be about honesty, respect and relationship what does that mean in practical terms? In his book ‘The Other Side of Virtue’ (O Books 2008) Brendan Myers offers us the idea that the inscription above the entrance to the temple of the Oracle at Delphi – “Know Thyself” – is
“how the source of ethics originally appeared to ancient peoples”
and through knowing themselves the
“questions of character, selfhood, and identity took precedence over utilitarian or legalistic questions of right and wrong”
At first glance this seems to imply that a selfish attitude was more important than social awareness and caring for others. Yet the stories passed down to us from many ancient societies tell us this is not so. Myers concludes from this that in a society such as ours, that values individualism, we would also uphold the value of self-knowledge. And yet too often we find that individualism has turned in on itself and become a self-centredness that creates boredom, unhappiness and hopelessness; a society which expects everything to be handed to the individual and not worked for, not earned. And through that self-centredness we disconnect from the outside world, from others, from nature.
In my earlier article I talked of how constantly moving on from one group to another, dropping friendships and connections, was dishonourable, and from the paragraph above we can see why that is. When we disconnect, become totally self-centred, when our search to ‘know thyself’ turns in on itself so do we find we treat others, and by extension nature, as a commodity to be used and discarded as and when it suits us. Here is the paradox, here is the challenge. For to act and live honourably means to know who we are, to be aware of what we think, what we believe, and what we desire; and yet at the same time to ask the question of how best we can live life meaningfully and with honour, with strong relationships and connections, seeking to transform how we live our lives.
To live with honour as an individual, then, means living life fully aware, connected, working consciously with relationship, living it deeply, recognising spirit in others and respecting them as individuals, recognising spirit in the trees, animals, the entirety of existence – and recognising that all that we do reflects itself in the world around us. For disrespect, to dishonour, others is to disrespect and dishonour ourselves.

















